Family
courts in Kerala have family counsellors. Read on to find out why.
Divorce
or ending of a relationship is not a happy experience for anybody. Kerala families
and society see divorce as a taboo. And, ending relationship is not a quick
solution for any problems. Divorce is not a permanent solution. In addition, it
is a good thing if marriages started on a happy note can stay that way.
Divorce
prevention counselling is designed to help couples keep their married life
happy for years to come. In that sense, the family counsellors at family courts
in Kerala do a great service to young couples. Even if you are on the verge of
divorce, you can iron out the differences and restart your family life – as it
is a new life.
Counseling
ordered by Family Courts also serves another purpose – giving important legal
information about family assets, child custody, etc. People don't have a clear
idea about how assets will be divided, who gets the custody of children, and
other important parts related to divorce. With family counseling ordered by
family courts, such issues are solved to a great extent.
People
are Reluctant Seeing a Counsellor
There
are several reasons why people feel bad about seeing a counsellor. For some, it
is discomfort talking personal details
to a total stranger. For others, it is about the taboo of seeking help on
family matters. Whatever the reason, people try to avoid counselling – even if
it is for saving a marriage. However, such reservations are unwarranted and a
professional counsellor works according to professional and ethical standards.
Your private matters will remain confidential and the details you share won't
be used against you.
At
times, people are also deterred by incompetent advice by well-meaning friends
and relatives. When they see signs of trouble in a family, they'd say things
like 'this is a phase' and 'you will get over it'. They are from well-meaning
friends. Well-meaning doesn't translate to desirable results. If you want to
get over marriage problems, you may need to seek professional help when needed.
No, it is not 'just a phase' that 'will pass'. When things go wrong, you need
help.
And,
it is strategically proven that couples who seek counselling and help reduce
the chance of a divorce and they will find happiness within the family. This is
one reason why family courts don't allow divorces before advising couples to go
through counselling.
Benefits
of Seeing a Counsellor
When
you see a counsellor and take counselling sessions, you will see marked
improvements in relationships. You will experience less panic, less anxiety and
less relationship issues. You will feel motivated about leading a happier life
than in the past. You will take control over stress, tensions and family issues.
You will have better understanding of abusive relationships, and remedies for
abuse. Marked improvements in sexuality, quality of life and mindfulness are
other benefits of getting the support of a professional counsellor.
You
may need only a few sessions of counselling to understand the underlying
troubles, learn effective means of handling stressful situations and having a
great sense of purpose in life.
